Anxiety: The 3 Most Common Pitfalls and How To Overcome Them

Pitfall #1:

Believing That Anxiety Has Taken Up Residence In Your Life Permanently.

Anxiety can be very disabling.

In a recent Australian Bureau of Statistics survey, around 1 in 7 people indicated they were experiencing symptoms consistent with an anxiety disorder.  These people reported being unable to carry out their usual roles and everyday tasks.

Any of these sound familiar to you?

• You need more than controlled breathing, relaxation methods and positive self-talk.
• Anxiety and perhaps panic attacks are your long held secret, except to those closest to you.
• Constant bombardment of scary and anxious thoughts.
• Staying in your comfort zone is safe and prevents major anxiety experiences.
• You feel sad & frustrated because you miss out on a lot of activities and fun experiences that others take for granted, like going to the movies, concerts, shopping or out to dinner.
• You’ve tried some weird and wacky treatments that have left you angry, drained financially and disappointed.

 Don’t give up.  It doesn’t have to be that way. 

You can lead a better life…

What’s vitally important and will make a BIG difference, is learning what’s happening in your brain, on a biological level, when experiencing fear or anxiety.  I don’t mean reading  b-o-r-i-n-g  biology or psychology books either - *eyeroll*!

What will make a BIG difference is reading cutting edge, scientific based information that is written in everyday English without the “fancy nancy” big words! This provides you with the knowledge of what happens in your brain when you experience fear or anxiety. 

This will shatter some of the myths and shed a light on this often debilitating condition.

Anxiety disorders, social anxiety, panic disorders, agrophobia, and generalised anxiety disorder effect as much as fifteen percent of people. 

I know only too well how easily your world is turned upside down, the effects on those closest to you and the downward spiral into chaos by anxiety.  I understand how strong the urge is to avoid feeling the full blown intensity of your fear can be. 

You see anxiety was also my long held secret. I suffered with anxiety myself for many years, before learning how to release the chains and truly live a life of freedom.

Pitfall #2:

Thinking That You Are Helpless When Your Anxiety is Triggered.

When experiencing anxiety your mind goes into overload and you are left barely functioning.  You may experience any or all of these symptoms:

• Trembling
• Sweating
• Dizziness
• Feeling Disconnected From Reality
• Heart Beats Quickly
• Can’t Think Clearly
• Lose Concentration
• Feel sick or nauseous
• Feeling trapped

Here’s the thing…

It’s not because you’re a nutter, sick, broken or a failure!  You’re often completely unaware of what triggers your panic and anxiety. 

Your brain goes into overload, is confused and is taking steps to protect you from fear.  Your body is doing what it can to protect you and keep you safe. 

The Fight or Flight Response kicks in.  This comes from a part of your brain called the amygdala.  It’s job is to prepare you to do one of two things.  Run away from danger or fight it off if we can’t.  This response goes back to the caveman days. 

You can quickly and easily learn to control the fear response and use the energy and incredible power it gives you.  More on that later…

Pitfall #3:

Leaving Your Anxiety Untreated

People with anxiety problems are at increased risk of developing depression.  In fact 2-4 times higher than people without a history of anxiety!

Did you know that the more often and severely your fear response is triggered, the more easily your panic and anxiety begins the next time?

Your default response will be to fall into a pattern of irrational thinking if left untreated.  You will also find yourself settling for a life that revolves around fear and anxiety!

Often making up excuses when you receive invitations, keeping the secret, planning your daily activities in order to avoid an extremely embarrassing and often debilitating episode.  A lonely, frightening and exhausting existence!

Here’s the good news…..

You can quickly begin to teach your brain new and effective strategies based on science. 

These will enable you to put into action a plan to conquer your anxiety when you’re experiencing even the most severe anxiety. 

You can develop a quick, easy and simple plan that you can follow before the need arises.  The State Emergency Service, Hospitals and Corporations have developed a plan to follow if something goes wrong.

So why not have one for yourself?

There’s no reason to NOT plan out beforehand what you’re going to do if you begin to experience anxiety exactly and in what order before ever needing it!

 Here’s your solution!  It will make a great deal of sense and it’s totally F.R.E.E.!!

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 How It Can Be Treated More Effectively And Faster Than Before 

 

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The Key to Teaching Others How to Treat Us

The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves.

We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us.

Setting boundaries means that we are taking responsibility for ourselves and are promoting equality and respect in relationships. It’s about setting limits + teaching others how to treat us.

Boundaries reflect our right to say “no” to those things that aren’t right for us.

Boundaries are about learning to take care of ourselves, regardless of the circumstances.

The first step is starting to understand that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves. That we have not only the right, but the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.

Setting a boundary is not manipulation, although some people may say they are setting boundaries, when in fact they are attempting to manipulate.

The big difference in between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome. We also are then free from the “disease to please!”

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, as they tend not to be able to communicate directly and honestly. Be this family members, work colleagues/bosses, friends, spouses or significant others in your life.

When I first heard the term boundaries I was left feeling confused, scared and anxious. How could I go about feeling confident in setting boundaries? However, as I progressed and applied the inner child healing process and started learning the concept of boundaries I soon came to realize I had none.

I came to the realization that to heal and move from co-dependency and step out from under the cloak of toxic shame, I had to start to learn to accept me, understand me and love me. I was starting to wake up to the real me! It was a confusing stage of my journey, as I had spent my adult life without boundaries.  I was clueless in fact! This behavior was modeled to me from my family and had been handed down through the generations.

The concept of boundaries initially for me was like a fence.

Fences make good neighbours, it defines that this is my yard, and over the fence is the neighbours yard, which I don’t enter unless invited and vice versa.

• A limit.
• A line not to be crossed.
• Something that sets apart what is acceptable and what is not.

I set upon a journey of self-awareness and I soon realised….

• I had a hard time standing up for myself.
• I kept agreeing to do things that I really didn’t want to (I call this the disease to please).
• I tolerated rude comments and pushy individuals.
• I took things personally.
• I would avoid some people.
• I often felt helpless.
• I had a fear of conflict.
• Couldn’t say No with the fear of upsetting others.

Do you relate to any of these?

I gradually learnt to pay attention to how I was feeling in certain situations. I noticed that I would often feel a knot in my gut, lose my energy or wanted to cry when faced with these situations.

I then set about learning how to say no by building my fences (boundaries) using the following exercise.

The following exercise is a first step in setting your personal boundaries.

Complete the following sentences with at least 3 examples.

1. People may not…………………………(example: raise their voice at me).

2. I have a right to ask for…………………(example: help around the house).

3. To protect my time and energy, its OK to……….(example: change my

mind).

Starting to set simple but firm boundaries may feel uncomfortable to begin with; however the personal power, improving your relationships and confidence you will gain will help to ease the discomfort and fear.

Need a hand with clarifying your boundaries in order to teach others how to treat you + say NO confidently? 

I can help you!

I conduct Coaching Programs + Private Consultations globally. 

Contact me here for further information.

The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves. We need to be able to tell other people when they are acting in ways that are not acceptable to us.

Setting boundaries means that we are taking responsibility for ourselves and are promoting equality and respect in relationships. It’s about setting limits.

Boundaries reflect our right to say “no” to those things that aren’t right for us.

Boundaries are about learning to take care of ourselves, regardless of the circumstances.

The first step is starting to understand that we have a right to protect and defend ourselves. That we have not only the right, but the duty to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.

Setting a boundary is not manipulation, although some people may say they are setting boundaries, when in fact they are attempting to manipulate.

The big difference in between setting a boundary in a healthy way and manipulating is: when we set a boundary we let go of the outcome. We also are then free from the “disease to please!”

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who has no boundaries, as they tend not to be able to communicate directly and honestly. Be this family members, work colleagues/bosses, friends, spouses or significant others in your life.

When I first heard the term boundaries I was left feeling confused, scared and anxious. How could I go about feeling confident in setting boundaries? However, as I progressed and applied the inner child healing process and started learning the concept of boundaries I soon came to realize I had none.

I came to the realization that to heal and move from co-dependency and step out from under the cloak of toxic shame, I had to start to learn to accept me, understand me and love me. I was starting to wake up to the real me! It was a confusing and painful part of my journey, as I had spent my life without boundaries. This behavior was modeled to me from my family and had been handed down through the generations.

The concept of boundaries initially for me was like a fence.

Fences make good neighbours, it defines that this is my yard, and over the fence is the neighbours yard, which I don’t enter unless invited and vice versa.

A limit.

A line not to be crossed.

Something that sets apart what is acceptable and what is not.

I set upon a journey of Self-Awareness…

I soon came to realize that:

I had a hard time standing up for myself.

I kept agreeing to do things that I really didn’t want to (I call this the disease to please).

I tolerated rude comments and pushy individuals.

I took things personally.

I would avoid some people.

I often felt helpless.

I had a fear of conflict.

Do any of these sound familiar to you?

I learnt to pay attention to how I was feeling in certain situations. I noticed that I would often feel a knot in my gut, lose my energy or wanted to cry when faced with these situations.

I then set about building my fences (boundaries) using the following exercise.

The following exercise is a first step in boundary setting.

Complete the following sentences with at least 10 examples.

1. People may not…………………………(example: raise their voice at me).

2. I have a right to ask for…………………(example: help around the house).

3. To protect my time and energy, its OK to……….(example: change my

mind).

Starting to set simple but firm boundaries may feel uncomfortable to begin with; however the personal power, improving your relationships and confidence you will gain will help to ease the discomfort and fear.

Need a hand with clarifying your boundaries?

I conduct Mentoring Programs + Private Consultations.

They Teach It at Stanford

In an evening class at Stanford the last lecture was on the mind-body connection - the relationship between stress and disease. The speaker (head  of psychiatry at Stanford) said, among other things, that one of the best things that a man could do for his health is to be married to a woman whereas for a  woman, one of the best things she could do for her health was to nurture her relationships with her girlfriends.
At first everyone laughed, but he was serious.

Women connect with each other differently and provide support systems that help each other to deal with stress and difficult life experiences. Physically this quality “girlfriend time” helps us to create more serotonin - a neurotransmitter that helps combat depression and can create a general feeling of well being. 

Women share feelings whereas men often form relationships around activities.

We share from our souls with our sisters/mothers, and evidently that is very good for our health.

He said that spending time with a friend is just as important to our general health as jogging or working out at a gym.

There’s a tendency to think that when we are “exercising” we are doing something good for our bodies, but when we are hanging out with friends, we are wasting our time and should be more productively engaged—not true.  

In fact, he said that failure to create and maintain quality personal relationships with other humans is as dangerous to our physical health as smoking!

So every time you hang with your girlfriends just pat yourself on the back and congratulate yourself for doing something good for your health! We are indeed very, very lucky. Sooooo let’s toast to our friendship with our girlfriends. Evidently it’s very good for our health.

Thanks to all the girlfriends in my life who have helped me stay healthy, happy + feeling very loovvved!

Girlfriends are the family we gift ourselves!

What are some of your fave ways ya luv to hang out with ya girl friends + weird-ass conversations?

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A Strong Woman Is...

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Women are like Lionesses

Having clear values and boundaries help me to navigate through the trenches of being a parent to two beautiful, sensitive and caring teenagers.

It can be freakin’ rough going down in the trenches with teenagers as they ride the hormonal roller-coaster ride with peer-pressure sitting in the next seat!

Some days you just need to put on the camo gear, load both barrels full of love & understanding, Gen-Y vocabulary dictionary, hhmmhhs, pile pockets with “stick it notes” with family boundaries scrawled on them to hand out and crawl forward.

What happens in my home and family matter to me! 

I care when they are disrespectful.

I care when they are in emotional pain and lash out.

I care when they have a floor-drobe.

I care when they mumble, grunt, pfft when asked a question about their day.

I care when they speak their mind in a respectful manner.

I care when they ask can I_______?

I care when I meet their bff, gf’s, bf’s.

I care when they do their own washing and clean their own personal space.

I care when I hear, “I love you mum”.

I care about the white knuckle ride that I can sometimes have with L Plate driving lessons.

I care when I see them helping others.

I care and they matter to me…I love them unconditionally.

From one Lioness to another.

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